"When Self-Interest and Love Collide” Sermon Delivered By Reverend Richard E. Stetler – August 21, 2011 Centenary United Exodus
1:8-2:10 Once I was taking a
high school senior home from our youth group and she initiated an
interesting conversation.
She said, “I am going off to the university in the fall.
I was wondering what advice you could give me about dating. I’m
really confused about what I should look for in a guy.
Mom said, ‘When you fall in love, you will just know that he is
the one.’ I don’t know what
that means. How will I know
some guy is the right one?
Is love really about how I feel?” I told her to date
as many guys as she can.
When she finds one that has similar values, enjoy a lengthy courtship.
She should go to his parent’s home and look around at all the
symbols with which he was surrounded as a child.
For example, I told
her to look for quality books and magazines.
Is the home neatly organized?
Watch how he responds during irritating and frustrating
circumstances. When you are
talking to him, does he easily become distracted?
Does he have any habits that require money to support?
What are his goals?
Ask him about his religious beliefs.
Does he know how to save money?
After probably
confusing her even more I said, “There is no
Mr. Right. There is no perfect
mate. Remember that romantic
fantasies can disguise many blemishes.
Look for a partner that you want to love rather than
trying to find the best person to love you.
After you have done all
your homework, there will come
a time when you have to throw caution and security to the wind and love
him just as he is.” It would be
interesting to go around the congregation this morning with a microphone
and hear all the thoughts and feelings that flooded your minds when you
were dating and trying to make a choice on your mate.
Many of you may recall that accepting someone as they are usually
involved a collision between self-interest and love.
We never know if our choice will work out, but as a poet once
said, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at
all.” Today there are
dating services like e-harmony.com., Jdates.com for Jewish people and
even a dating site that promises to bring single Christians together.
All of these social networks try to do some of the
homework for their clients.
The question that cannot be answered by such services is, which
spirit will win the battle between self-interest and love? Love can be
very painful. Pain is an aspect of extending
our loving energy that is seldom discussed.
This morning we are
going to explore what happened when the love of a mother won over
self-interest. Our lesson
opened with these words, “There arose a Pharaoh who never heard of
Joseph.” Scholars have
estimated that the Jews that were cared for by Joseph grew to
approximately two million during those four centuries they were in The Egyptians became
fearful of the Hebrew’s ever increasing numbers and enslaved them.
Later the Egyptian government attempted to control their numbers
by killing male babies soon after their birth. Very few people obeyed
such an insane order. During
the initial stages of this partial genocide, however, a couple named
Amram and Jochebed had a son.
Jochebed devised a
plan to save her son’s life even though the implications from her
decision were extremely heart-wrenching.
She created a water-tight basket and placed her son in it.
Her plan was to have the basket float a short distance following
the reed beds that grow in the shallow waters along the shoreline.
She timed the release of the basket so that it would coincide
with the daily bath routine of Pharaoh’s daughter.
Jochebed asked her daughter to watch what would take place. Once the princess found the Hebrew boy inside the basket, she wanted to save the child’s life. His sister approached the princess and said, “Would you like me to find a Hebrew woman who might consider nursing him for you?” When permission was granted, she brought her mother. At no time did
Jochebed understand her decision in any other terms than giving her son
a chance to live his life.
Her love overcame self-interest and she surrendered what, in those days,
was considered the greatest joy for a Hebrew family – having a son to
carry on his father’s name. Jochebed showed no emotion as she listened
when the princess named him Moses. Once Moses was
weaned, Jochebed returned him to the Princess who adopted him into the
royal family of Such stories of love that involve people giving without counting the cost can really give us pause as we look at our own responses. It is challenging to set self-interest aside. In her pain, Jochebed was not thinking that her son would one day change the history of her people. She did not have the vision that her sacrificial love would eventually lead to the Ten Commandments and a subsequent law code. The drama of Moses life took place approximately fourteen centuries before Jesus was born. As we live day to
day, we have little ability to look into the future and sense how many
people’s lives might be impacted by any decision we make.
Most of us do not give much thought to the impact our
decisions make on others we do not know because we are
blind to events in the future. Once there was a
couple who married over one hundred years ago.
They had a daughter and a few years later, they had a son.
The husband became a very successful telegraph operator that
earned him a very handsome salary during those years.
He was one of the fortunate ones whose job and salary did not go
away during the crash of Wall Street in 1929. However, having
enough money to more than satisfy the needs of his family was not enough
for him. He wanted more.
He began to place small bets on various horses and as his
gambling losses grew, he placed larger bets in order break even.
In time, he became a compulsive gambler, sometimes betting and
losing his entire paycheck. Her husband denied
having a gambling problem and made numerous excuses for not being able
to pay the household bills.
His wife sought help from everyone who wanted to listen to her
situation. The best advice after months of consulting various friends
was that she should take the two children and return to The wife was a very stubborn woman and decided that her love for her husband and family would not permit her to abandon the unity of the family. She began to rent rooms to nurses and college students. She took in the laundry of neighbors and friends and did house cleaning just to make ends meet. That couple has had
an impact on everyone in our church this morning.
Had that woman taken her two children and moved back to The rub for each of us comes when our self-interest comes up against what would best serve others. If there is one issue today that dominates the headlines of most newspapers in countries around the world, it is the struggle that takes place when self-interest and love collide. In the Democracy
demonstrates its frailty when the race for office by our elected
officials is funded by special interests groups who later seek political
favors. When do political
leaders put the future of their country and its people above their own
self-interest? Right now our own
country is struggling because of this issue.
The bus drivers were divided over self-interest and love of These activities are
the perfect storm as our
country continues to deal with similar economic woes that are affecting
nations all over the world.
This experience has placed our beautiful island in uncharted waters
never before experienced in its history.
There was never any rulebook that lays out a national strategy
when houses go into foreclosure, when companies downsize by eliminating
jobs and when Regardless of the values we hold
personally about these issues or what religious beliefs we have in
common, the tension is the same in every culture around the world.
Self-interest is colliding with what love for others requires.
When a small number of people have the power to disrupt the lives
of 67,000 people, what is being communicated by withholding services
upon which so many people depend?
Just think of all the possible unintended consequences.
People are still
shocked beyond belief of what happened on the streets of As we have learned
recently, the Japanese have “love your neighbor” embedded into their
culture because of their ancient religions.
It is amazing that the search and recovery teams sifting through
the remains of the tsunami located 48 million dollars.
Most of it was returned to its rightful owners.
Imagine the network of people required to make that happen. Remember, the issue that Pharaoh and his
government faced in The Hebrews had
grown to become brilliant artisans upon which the Egyptians depended to
build their mighty cities. The Egyptians were not thinking of how
prosperous they had become when the two ethnic groups enjoyed what they
had produced together.
Clearly self-interest was colliding with what love would do, and fear
and self-interest won the day.
A mystery of this collision is that it brought Moses to the world’s stage. The episode inThe question for us is how many times have we set aside something we wanted so that other people might be served? How many times have we experienced emotional pain because of a relationship where our love had become a one-way street? We never know what will happen when we decide to love our neighbors on the same level that equals our self-interest. God is love and when
we choose to extend our energy in the same direction as our Creator
does, even in our wildest dreams we could not possibly imagine what God
has in store for the future.
What we do know is that a carpenter and twelve men living in an obscure
part of the world changed how humanity does business.
What we do know is that a small seed can become a giant tree. The process of
humankind collectively awakening to the value of, “Love your neighbor as
you love yourself,” is very slow.
Our joy is that God is exceedingly patient.
What is remarkable is that some
of us have the ability to choose to live with that consciousness now.
As a result, we reap the harvest of being able to live at peace,
confident that God is in charge.
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