"Rejection! What
Rejection?" Sermon Delivered By Reverend Richard E. Stetler
– June 30, 2013 Centenary United
Galatians 5:16-25; Luke 9:46-55
This morning we are
going to touch on a theme which all of us have experienced – being
rejected. It does not feel
good when someone turns away from us or turns us down.
We find ourselves living in a world where not all the doors open
when we knock. There are
relationships that do not work no matter how much we try.
There are job applications submitted that go unanswered.
There are high school graduates that have applied to colleges
only to have their entrance request denied. There are times when our
company is downsizing that we receive that proverbial
pink slip.
Citizens in the In Luke’s Gospel,
we have an episode where Jesus was rejected by leaders of a Samarian
village. Jesus sent his
advanced team ahead to make
arrangements for lodging and meals.
When James and John began discussing Jesus’ imminent visit, the
two were told that they would not be welcomed in their village.
As Jesus approached and received the news, the two disciples were
so upset that they asked Jesus, “Lord, do you want us to call fire down
from heaven to destroy them?” Remember James and
John were part of the inner circle of the disciples.
They were the decision-makers.
Both were Jesus’ cousins and had been with him from the very
beginning of his ministry.
We can only imagine what the two would have done had Jesus said, “Yes,
by all means, let’s destroy everyone in the village for ignoring our
needs.” If we ever wonder
why “love thy neighbor” is hard to do during
the heat of living from day
to day, here are two of Jesus ring leaders forgetting the same teaching
even though they were with Jesus every day for three years.
All that Luke says about this
is, “Jesus rebuked them and they went on to another village.”
What is interesting is that Jesus was ready to move on
immediately while the disciples were still stuck with attitudes about
their being rejected. There are many
reasons why we find moving on
a very challenging response to make.
“I thought she or he loved me.”
“I feel used.” “I
did not see this coming and I am absolutely devastated.”
“He lied to me!
He absolutely lied to me!!!” “I
should never have applied for that position.
The people in Human Resources already knew who they were going to
hire long before they asked for resumes.
They were only fulfilling the requirements of the law.”
Whatever our response, we can easily become immobilized by the
flurry of drama resulting from our disappointment.
When we glance into
the rearview mirrors of our lives, few of us could have planned the
life-events that brought us to this point.
If each of us had achieved everything we initially wanted, where
would we be and what would we have missed?
Without the adventure that
uncertainty, failures and unscheduled detours have produced thus far,
most of us would be in a very different place.
For example, the
death of a spouse caused by a car accident where the alcohol blood level
in the other driver was four times the legal limit, will cause our life
to track in a vastly different direction.
Some Christians would blame God for not providing
the umbrella of protection
that other Christians claim to have.
Others would simply give thanks for the wonderful years they had
together and move on, knowing that blame and resentment often creates
two victims. In fact, most of our tools of spirit developed because of struggles that helped free us from the cocoons that we typically associate with our personal security. Faith does not save us from experiencing calamities, prolonged illnesses and family crises; faith supports us with endurance and determination while we move through life’s challenges. Last week, I was
sharing with Selina’s Bible study group at the When circumstances
become difficult for us, so often it has nothing to do with where we are
in life. Plunging into the
depths of despair has to do with our judgment about why we were denied
something that we really wanted and needed.
I mentioned this theme last
Sunday.
Our judgments about life are
what build our emotional prisons
or give us wings to fly. As all of you know,
my favorite hero in the Hebrew Bible is Joseph.
He never had a problem with blaming God or questioning God’s
intentions for any of his circumstances.
For all we know, Joseph’s overriding understanding had nothing to
do with God’s absence from his life.
We learn from the Joseph story that everything he experienced was
an opportunity to bring to each event his best character qualities and
integrity. Each chapter of his life was almost more challenging than the last. His brothers sold him to a caravan of strangers. He lost his job as the manager of a large estate. He was accused of sexual misconduct. He was put into prison. He was forgotten by a person who promised to work on his release. It is hard for us to believe that Joseph’s mood and attitude about God’s presence never wavered. Joseph was able to
detach completely from having any negative judgments about what life had
served up for him. Joseph was
probably the first Pollyanna
in the ancient world. Are
we any different from Joseph?
Would Jesus have invited his listeners to live in
the Feeling rejected is a decision that we make because we want something that remains beyond our grasp. It is likely that, once Jesus learned the villagers’ response and what his disciples wanted to do to get even, he said, “Are you serious? You want to punish people with death for saying, ‘no’ to us? Have you learned anything during the last three years? Maybe you both should return to class and take Love 101 over again.”
What was it that
Jesus possessed that made him immune to developing feelings of
rejection? His
identity was not dependent on the opinions or decisions of other people.
Rejection was only one interpretation of what happened with the
Samaritans. Who made that
interpretation and had their feelings hurt?
James and John, of course!
Jesus knew that
people
never have to spend a moment of their lives defending the value
of what unconditional love will produce in their lives.
In fact, unconditional love and feelings of being rejected
cannot exist in the same space.
If this is the case, why do people become devastated when others
reject them? Dr. Wayne Dyer told
a story during one of his lectures that came right to the point.
An attorney friend called him and invited
After realizing
that his wife had no desire for reconciliation, It doesn’t matter
who is at fault. Separating
partners of a marriage always point fingers.
Face it, your marriage is over.
Look at you! You are
no longer taking care of yourself.
Your practice is in terrible shape.
You are drinking. If
you love your wife and she has found love in another direction, try
supporting her. Give her
more than she wants. End
this nonsense. Your energy
is flowing in a direction that will eventually destroy you.
Be happy for your wife. Change
your attitude and begin being her friend. This was
shock-therapy at its best. Jesus knew what
many of us forget.
We are as God created us.
We are whole. We
do not need anything in this world to make us any more whole then we
already are. A wise sage
once wrote, “Never let the tendrils of your heart become so entangled
around anything in this world that you cannot release it immediately
when circumstances require it.” Jesus knew that
being loved by everyone is not a requirement of life.
Our life experiences are useful in helping us to enhance our
spiritual abilities with attitudes that light up the world.
What is so hard for us to hear
and believe is that all the props
used in offering us these opportunities to grow, do not exist when we
leave this world. Most of us can say,
“God, thank you so much for being a constant presence in my life, but I
really need this job, I really want him or her as my life partner and I
really want to be a success in the eyes of my parents.” What we are
communicating is, “God, what you have given me is not enough.
I know that I will become more whole if I get this job, secure
this life-partner and become the success story of my dreams.”
Notice the flow of the energy, “I want, I need,
I can’t live without this and I have to do this.”
The quality of our
lives depends on the direction of our energy flow.
This is why Jesus was not concerned in the least if someone said,
“I don’t need you. I don’t
want you in our village.”
Even when Jesus faced the High Priest and members of the Sanhedrin,
people who totally rejected him and condemned him for blasphemy, Jesus
remained as calm as a pond on a windless day.
The thought of getting even or hurting any of them never entered
his mind. Rather than
plunging into despondency when life is painful, try being grateful that
God sees more in us than we see in ourselves.
We are as God created us.
We are whole and more
than capable of being God’s representative in every circumstance.
Try to imagine how our lives
would change if we could remember this every day. |