"Owning What Cannot Be Given Away” Sermon Delivered By Rev. Dick Stetler – November 9, 2014 Centenary United
Psalm 78:1-7; Matthew 25:1-13 There are times when we look at the parables of Jesus and think
to ourselves, "What does this parable about a Jewish wedding have to do
with my life?" We have to
remember that Jesus was practicing his craft as a teacher by
illustrating his truths wrapped in common, everyday experiences. In the case of our lesson, Jesus used the occasion of a Jewish
wedding and feast to illustrate a timeless message that would have a
universal appeal to all people.
We have to look beyond what happened to the ten young women to
see what lesson Jesus was teaching.
As we learn from the story, five of the women had not come with
extra oil for their lamps and five had come prepared for an extended
period of time by bringing extra oil with them.
When the groom arrived for the wedding, the women who were not
prepared had to go to those who sell oil and buy more and thus they not
only missed the wedding but they also missed the wedding feast that
followed. There is a
message here for all of us. Jesus' lesson had little to do with a Jewish wedding.
The imagery of the wedding was only the vehicle for helping his
listeners retain an important aspect of their spiritual growth.
Jesus began his teaching with these words, "Approaching the Everyday, our news is filled with stories of people that needed a
skill immediately and they discovered that they had
run out of oil.
One of the most heart-breaking
stories occurred recently in He allegedly felt rejected by a female student whom he liked.
He responded by entering his high school cafeteria and shot five
students, killing four of them before killing himself.
Two of the people he shot were
his cousins. Everyone
was emotionally overwhelmed by this tragic event.
How could someone with so much promise suddenly lose grip on his
emotions to the extent where he wanted
to erase his future and the
futures of other students? He needed the acquired skill of coping with rejection.
Everyone eventually finds rejection coming from people who have
different values, different likes and different goals.
He had not developed the
skill of never ever personalizing how other people respond to him.
Instead, all he had at his disposal was a response to his hurt
that was powerful enough to override his desire to continue living.
Jesus was
teaching that sometimes people can appear to have everything working for
them when their inner world is starving to death.
Five women had their lamps
filled with oil, but when the time came for those lamps to provide
light, they had gone dry. I can recall very vividly the time we took our daughter, Sue, to When the three of us crowded inside the elevator's coach with
other students and their belongings, I began to realize how much times
had changed since I went to These articles were just the ones I can remember, but they
represented the tip of the iceberg.
As the elevator ascended to higher floors, I said, "Have you
students come to the University to learn new things or to play?"
Sue turned various shades of red and I am sure she wanted to
disown me, but above the nervous laughter of students, one young man
said, "In our world, you have to be prepared to be successful at doing
both." He was absolutely
right! Just as we never get a second chance to make a first impression,
students often do not get a second change to receive an education at
this point in their lives when they have fewer responsibilities.
When
students are anchored to their purpose for having an advanced education,
they are very reluctant to chase experiences that are more seductive
than studying. When However, those that had the wisdom of the five women who brought
extra oil for their lamps lived more modestly while banking or investing
their excess money in rental properties or other investments.
People cannot wait until
the last minute to plan for the moment when their cash stops flowing or
wait until they are in their 60s to begin thinking about their
retirement. There are
many applications of Jesus' message to our spiritual and physical
evolution. The second important lesson from this parable is that there are certain things about life that we cannot borrow or give away. The five women who ran out of oil came to the five women who had planned ahead and begged them to share some of their oil reserves. Their answer was, "No, if we give you some of our oil, we will not have enough for ourselves." While this appears cold-hearted and selfish, we have to remember
that Jesus was not talking about sharing their oil.
If he had been talking about oil, these women would have gone to
their friends and neighbors in the area to help their sisters get enough
oil to sustain them. The ten girls would have known each other and were
friends. However,
sharing their oil was not Jesus' message.
He was talking about spiritual qualities that cannot be borrowed
or shared. For example, we cannot borrow someone's character qualities.
People who choose wisely to invest in themselves by selecting
values that will serve them are
miles ahead of people who followed the crowd or who invest their
energies in pleasing others.
This latter group is more like leaves that flutter in the
direction of the prevailing wind. The identities in this latter group developed no distinctive
roots.
We do not know if we can count on them, if they will show up when
they promised, or if they will follow through on their commitments.
There are consequences to
each path that have been paved with our choices.
When I entered the
ministry, I noticed something fascinating about the storyline of the men
whose funerals I was conducting.
This was in the days when many married women were not wage
earners. Going over the chronology of the lives of men, I noticed how
often they moved their families from one location to another.
One woman told me, "We moved so many times, that our freshly
painted rooms had not had a chance to dry before we moved again."
Men were moving their families because they went to places where
businesses were hiring. In those
days the men were thinking about providing for their families.
Today we hear: We can't take the
kids away from their friends.
If we move, we will lose the house.
This is where I was born.
I want to be near my family.
Look at all the resources available to us from social agencies
that are willing to help us get through this period. Last year there was a report of a single mother with three
children that had fallen behind in her house payments.
What she earned working two jobs kept the electricity on and her
children fed. Every social
agency imaginable came to help her.
Life became easier at first and then she felt that she could no
longer live that way. She
was extremely independent. She read where contractors where hiring in We cannot borrow someone else's motivation.
We cannot borrow their tolerance for taking risks.
We cannot borrow their faith and trust in God that allows them to
abandon everything that translates into personal security.
We cannot borrow their spirit that says, "You've gotta do what
you gotta do if you're going to make it."
Everything about this young family's life was transformed by her
decision to read the signs
that pointed to such a decision. She had to answer the question, do I
want to grow in the direction of dependency or maintain my freedom?
She chose her freedom!
This woman did not want to be shut out from the
wedding feast Jesus referred
to. In this case,
the wedding feast was
symbolic of the rewards and satisfaction that would come from her
economic independence and the self-esteem that would grow from being a
contributor to society. She
told the reporter, "When God is
part of your team, there is nothing that you cannot accomplish even when
the odds for success appear to be stacked against you."
This is the way it is when we approach living in the |