“Our Ego and How We Wear It” Sermon Delivered By Rev. Dick Stetler – November
11, 2018 Centenary United Methodist Church Psalm
127; Mark 12:38-44 This morning's lesson contains a theme that can stimulate a
healthy debate within ourselves about what and how we communicate to
others. Long before
clinical labels were given to personalities by Sigmund Freud and other
influential neurologists and psychologists, two prime examples of the
way individuals can wear
their egos surfaced in our Scripture lesson today.
They appear like bookends. In between them is a wide variety of people
wearing very different
ego-driven personalities. The pride of a Pharisee who understood himself
as being highly favored by God was one
bookend.
The other bookend was
a very humble widow who gave to the coffers of the Temple two small
copper coins that were worth a penny. Each of us has some degree of self-understanding
that forms the spirit of the personality that we radiate to others.
There are individuals in our midst who assume an attitude of
enormous self-importance.
In 1969, the description of someone being on
an ego trip was first coined
as a label for such individuals.
On many occasions during his ministry, Jesus described our one
bookend, the Pharisees, as
belonging to this group.
Many of them were Teachers of the Law, Scribes, and other professions
that required having an academic education.
All of them were supposed to earn a living by
teaching or by being involved in matters of commerce because they could
read and write. However, many of them carried themselves with such
importance that work of any kind was beneath them.
They wore their egos
communicating that they were
God's elite citizens.
Everything from their dress code to their lengthy prayers were designed
to draw attention to themselves.
Jesus warned his listeners, particularly women, to be very
cautious around them. These
holier-than-thou men preyed on women.
Since the public believed that
the Pharisees were God's elite,
there was no higher calling for women than to support these men
economically. Jesus was
teaching, "Stop giving them anything. They will continue asking for more
and more until they eventually come into possession of your homes."
(Mark 12:40) Jesus was informing his listeners that these men
were everything but
God's elite.
They were common, ordinary
thieves dressed up like Greek
gods.
We still have such
elites among us today.
Many years ago, The Board of Ordained Ministry of
our Annual Conference would take a group of men on a retreat.
This was the first phase of their journey that would eventually
lead to their ordination. Women seldom entered the process of becoming
an ordained Elder until the 1970s. One of the curious behaviors of a number of these
men was that as soon as they became
certified as a
ministerial candidate, they
began wearing clerical shirts, a collar, and a black suit communicating
to those around them that they had already arrived.
Everywhere they went, they remained dressed like a
priest. Their
uniform often granted them
certain social courtesies that were not extended to other people. If a
police officer pulled them over for speeding, they were often given a
warning ticket from the officer as well as the admonition, "Father, in
the future, please watch how fast you are driving." Throughout my fifty-plus years as a pastor, I have
seen congregations so revere their pastors that they placed them on
a pedestal, the same place
where the Pharisees had been placed.
At Christmas these pastors were lavished with gifts such as new
cars to sizeable bonuses.
Congregations wanted their pastors to have the best even though Jesus
had no place to sleep at night.
(Matthew 8:20) Let us
remain clear here, dressing like a pastor grants them instant respect,
just as the Pharisees were receiving. In my last church, we converted a large storage
area into an apartment where we could give small families temporary
shelter until they could make a fresh start.
We were between guests at the time and I was in the shelter
giving the walls a fresh coat of paint.
One of our church members stopped by after my
secretary told her where she could find me. She had six milk cartons,
each that once held six gallons of milk.
They were filled with baby food that her child no longer needed.
She asked if I would take them to our area food bank that was
housed in the Presbyterian church in town.
Her husband had put them in the car and she could not lift them. I put down my roller and took the baby food to the
food bank immediately because I knew that such a commodity would be most
helpful. When I showed up, there
were three men working in the facility.
They immediately challenged me and asked how I had gotten into
the church. They told me
that they were not open for business. It was then that I realized that I
was being judged by the way I looked.
I had more paint on my pants and shirt than I had applied to the
walls. My response was, "I really could use your help. I have six large milk cartons of baby food and wondered if you guys could lend me a hand in bringing them into the food bank." Because of their initial rude greeting, I did not bother to introduce myself. Their rather authoritarian looks suddenly burst into smiles and handshakes when they realized I came bearing gifts. When I came home and told Lois about my experience
with the three men she said, "Dick Stetler, don't tell me that you went
to the Presbyterian church looking like that?"
I honestly had not given my appearance a second thought. Since I immediately went back to my painting after
the delivery of the food, it made no sense for me to go home and change
my clothes just to look presentable.
Once I saw a cartoon of Jesus being escorted out of
a church. Under it were
these words, "Go find a hippy-church if you can find one.
Your kind is not a good fit for our congregation!"
I save cartoons like this because they often provide a message of
which many Christians need reminding.
They need to continue polishing
the lenses that govern their
people-filters. Are they
seeing everyone through the eyes of love? All of the responses we have discussed thus far are rooted in the ego-center of values found coming from a wide assortment of personalities. The Pharisees needed to be in total control of how they were being perceived by the public. They had the wardrobe, the ability to pray publicly using eloquent words, and they had a need to sit in the places of honor everywhere they went. By contrast, let us now look at the other
bookend. Jesus and the
disciples were sitting across from the Temple treasury when the Master
drew their attention to the widow across the street. They watched as she
put her offering to God into the Temple's public container for such
financial gifts. Jesus said, "She has given more to the Temple than
anyone else. Most people
give generously out of their abundance.
She has willingly given her last penny." (Mark 12:44) We do not know a thing about this woman other than her generosity has shamed a lot of people about their giving patterns for thousands of years since Jesus used her and her gift as a teachable moment. What caused Jesus to look across the street at just that moment? Why has this woman become so influential through the centuries?
The creativity of God happens invisibly.
Contrary to the
beliefs of countless Christians, God has no desire for recognition,
applause, or praise.
God works in secret. We are the
ones who insist on expressing gratitude to God. There is nothing wrong
about sharing our feelings with God. However, more of our inspiration
comes from those whose lives have become
signposts for others. The
poor, humble woman would have given her gift to God even if no one had
been watching. The ego she was displaying was that of a woman who loved
and trusted God with her future.
She knew that God, who
sees in secret, loved her.
Today is
Remembrance Day in Bermuda.
I recall a scene that
burned itself into my mind.
I have never forgotten it. The Viet Nam War was very unpopular in
the United States among many citizens.
A group of war-weary Veterans were returning from the Far East
and they were greeted by those present with jeers, boos, and an entire
litany of bitter, hateful comments.
I remember tears coming to my eyes as I watched this drama
unfolding. These were men who had just come from the worst
possible conditions. They
had lost dear friends and had been separated from their families for
extended periods of time.
There was no one among those present who chose to value their sacrifice.
Watching the response of
ridicule coming from other Americans made me very sad.
Freedom of speech always
reveals the spirit of those expressing themselves. God performs small and large miracles through all
kinds of people, e.g., the Pharisees, the women who sacrificed to
support them, the widow who through storytelling has influenced the
generosity of billions of people, and for those who remain unrecognized
even though many of them gave their lives so that
human freedom might live.
Today, in Bermuda, we remember them with gratitude. God is very generous in guiding us in how to creatively interpret life's numerous experiences. Even the disappointing attitudes and behaviors of others can teach us how to become clearer signposts for people as we allow the details up to God for how that is to be accomplished. Remember what God did with a widow and her two
coins. Remember what God
did with a carpenter who spent three years teaching people how to live
in one of the most obscure parts of the world.
Because he was misunderstood, he
was murdered. What an
illustration that demonstrates that nothing could prevent Jesus' message
of love your enemies from
reaching our lives thousands of years later! Today, we understand what
he taught. Today, the message of
how to live in The Kingdom of God
is very clear. Think
of what God can do through the lives of each of us when we choose to
follow Jesus while living in the midst of our chaotic world! CONGREGATIONAL PRAYER Loving, ever present
God, too often we find ourselves struggling with the tension between our
faith and our fear.
We want
our lives to be true adventures but often we become hesitant when faced
with uncertainty.
We want
to live by faith but realize that our trust has many limitations.
Thank you for guiding us to remember that all our needs will be
met when we invest ourselves in living by faith. Life is always
reminding us that we will constantly be students that have much to
learn.
Thank you for
helping us to discover that the bitter pills of life often become
the best medicine.
Amen.
PASTORAL
PRAYER How wonderful it is, O God, to be together in
our sanctuary, an environment that helps to focus our attention on
matters other than the distracting cares of our day.
Why is it that so many people squander their energy on
complaining about everyday events when all of us could be filled with
gratitude for the golden age in which we live?
We have so much for which to be thankful, particularly your
presence during the rough patches that we experience, as well as those
moments that bring such joy, satisfaction and peace.
Thank you. This week we pause in respect and gratitude for
the men and women who have fallen in battle defending what too many of
us take for granted – our freedoms. We also celebrate the lives of those
who continue in their vigilance to protect us from those whose values
and attitudes clash with our own. The enemies of freedom have forgotten
that we are all your sons and daughters that were created to experience
the values of choice, consequences, better choices and endless
opportunities for growth.
We pray for a day to come when all the societies of the world will
discover what we know and love about Bermuda. Tomorrow, we will rally around our annual Tea
and Sale. May the spirit of
love radiate from all of us as we greet and serve our guests.
Grant us patience, energy, smiles and extend the kindnesses of
warm hospitality. We pray
these thoughts through the spirit of Jesus the Christ, who taught us to
say when we pray . . . |