“What’s A Father To Do?” Sermon Delivered By Rev. Dick Stetler – June 17,
2018 Centenary United Methodist Church Psalm 20; Mark 4:26-34
Father's Day
Father's Day can be an awkward moment to celebrate for some
people. During my childhood, fathers were not around during the day.
Being present between supper and bedtime was the reality faced by
many children. In those days,
fathers had a distinct role.
Most fathers were the providers for the family. Times have changed
dramatically during recent years.
Mothers have joined the work-force, childcare is being provided
by pre-schools, nannies, and in many industries, fathers have been given
paternity leave when children
are born. What is a father
to do to influence the lives of his children? During a fishing
trip years ago with a group of men from my church, we had the occasion
to discuss parenting with a father who had three sons and two daughters.
The men on the boat knew his family.
We all agreed that his children had evolved into wonderful, warm,
loving, and very spirited young people. They could communicate well.
They had their own interests.
They achieved academically and all five of them had attitudes
that were spiced with a
wonderful sense of humor. We asked him what
he and his wife had done to create such wholesome and emotionally stable
children. He laughed and
said: Thank you for your
compliments! However, I
would be stretching things to say that our children are emotionally
stable. Teenagers are never emotionally stable. Their
highs are so high and their
lows are really low. From
their lack of life-experiences, they often do not use good judgment.
Samantha and I
blame such mood swings on raging
hormones. Each one of our children has had their own challenges. The
more confidence they have, the more independence they seek.
One thing for sure, with all that they are exposed to these days,
they grow up fast. It has been tough for Sam and me to keep up with
them. As the conversation
continued, he spoke in more personal terms: Sam and I have done
very little but to supply them with
a garden that met their
material and emotional needs. We
allowed them to grow freely into becoming whatever
their genes designed them to
be. The only variable in our family that has been consistently present
is that we laughed a lot. When all of us were together on vacation or
having a picnic, humor just flowed. That quality has been a real
positive influence in our family's
chemistry. We enjoyed being
with each other. The comment that stood out for me was when he said that he and
his wife supplied a garden
that met the needs of their children.
They sprouted into
being the individuals they were becoming.
John and Samantha allowed their children to find their own way
at their own pace.
In our Gospel
lesson this morning, Jesus was searching for metaphors that would
produce an image of the Kingdom
of God that his listeners could understand.
He was not saying what such a
Kingdom
will be like; he was
giving examples of what the
Kingdom is like
right now in their lives. Jesus understood his audiences.
Very few of his listeners could read or write.
He knew that they could not
absorb or learn what they were incapable of understanding.
(Mark 4:33) He used
descriptive story-telling, hoping that they could
catch a glimpse of the
potential that their Heavenly
Father had provided for
all people.
If we go beneath the surface of what Jesus was teaching, we might
learn some insights that we can use today to nourish our 21st
Century understanding of what he taught over two thousand years ago.
Just as the father on our boat described their home environment
as a garden, it would be easy
for us to understand the earth as
God's garden. Jesus told his listeners that their lives were like
a tiny mustard seed.
At birth, their lives in these temporary, limited, physical forms
were beginning their experiential adventure, a journey that will allow
them to be influenced by their surroundings. Further, he taught
that each of them also had everything that they could possibly
need packaged inside of them that would remain dormant in their
spiritual DNA until they
chose to access it. Jesus said
that each of them had the potential to grow into
a gigantic shrub as their
genes guided them toward
various likes and dislikes during the periods of their decision-making.
Jesus taught this by telling them that the
Kingdom of God is within
them. (Luke 17:21) For some people,
God can be understood as an
absentee landlord. For
people who have not developed vision that goes beyond what their senses
tell them, they cannot see any evidence that God exists.
People can easily reason that if there is a God who cares for us,
why does God allow such unfortunate things to happen to so many people?
What kind of a
divine parent is our Creator
if God could intervene during life-threatening times and chooses to
allow everyone to find our own way at our own pace even if that means
that some people will die in the process?
We will cover this quality of
God later in my message. Try to imagine what Jesus would
tell audiences in our present time.
We are accustomed to abstract thinking.
We are acquainted with scientific inquiry none of which was
available during Jesus' ministry. We have Sociology, Spirituality,
Psychology, Metaphysics, Astronomy, Philosophy, and Physiology among
countless other disciplines engaged in expanding their known horizons.
There have been
scores of people with no religious background who have experienced being
out-of-their-bodies during surgery.
We have the research from people like Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
who have documented testimonies of what people have experienced when
they communicated with those who are deceased.
Such claims were supported by
substantive information that they would have no other way of knowing but
through direct communication. For years people have engaged in Regressive Hypnotherapy where people began discussing their past lives in remarkable detail. When they come out of their hypnotic condition, they had no memory of what their recorded conversation revealed. There are so many testimonies that they are hard to refute. Either a lot of people are making up these stories, or people hearing them are not open to possibilities that our base knowledge of Spirituality is constantly expanding. Parents do not know a thing about where their children have come
from nor about what kinds of talents and abilities are being held in
suspension within their spiritual
DNA. After children are
born, they have amnesia
concerning any prior existence.
Spiritual insights
have taught us that God created us with
free will when it comes to
self-discovery. This does
not mean that we have free will
up to a certain point and if we cross one of
God's red lines, we have put
our eternal salvation in jeopardy.
Free will literally
means that whatever we do, we are not strong enough to escape God's
love. (Psalm 139:7f) We know
historically that most religious beliefs were born from ignorance
by primitive peoples. All
beliefs were products from those who became focused on what they did not
understand about life. Earlier
people once worshipped the animals, the sun, and the rivers.
They gave religious definitions to natural events like solar
eclipses, earthquakes, and volcanic eruptions.
Everything from
oceans, fire, and wind were thought to be divinities that required
sacrifices. People created the awareness that their gods fought enemies
on their behalf and that their deities chose
favorites from among the
various tribes of people living on the earth.
Spirituality was slowly evolving.
We need to understand that.
Primitive thinking is the
foundation of all scientific inquiry. Conclusions were
created by thoughtful people that God worked through particular
sons and
daughters of God to teach the
rest of humanity insights on how to live purposeful and meaningful
lives. As people followed such teachings, they developed certain skills
of spirit like peace, generosity, forgiveness, and happiness that
enabled them to deal creatively with life's accelerating changes. The father on our
boat was doing the same thing that God does by allowing his five
children to grow at their own pace of self-discovery in
the garden that he and
Samantha had provided. Maturing
and becoming responsible for their lives had to be accomplished by
each of their children.
No father or mother
can teach self-reliance or give their children attitudes that will
contribute to their independence, confidence, and vision. By design, the
spiritual DNA of our children
fuels their imaginations to find and seize opportunities.
However, our
children also have the ability to look at the material world and become
overwhelmed and confused by what their senses tell them.
They can resist the urge to
achieve independence. They
can develop an overwhelming need to remain dependent on mom and dad, a
spouse, or even God. Needy people have
trained themselves to seek wholeness by remaining dependent on what the
world offers rather than by understanding that they were whole and
complete on the day they were born. While
mustard seeds are
insignificant, they have the potential to grow into
large shrubs.
Everything that a tiny mustard
seed needs to grow is inside of it. (Luke 17:21) One of the qualities that makes our Creator different from earthly fathers is that God knows who we are before we incarnate into the world of physical forms and matter. This is why God does not intervene every time we have issues that we need to solve. We are spirit-beings testing our skills while living in very limited forms in a temporary world that only appears to be real. Our Creator has
allowed each of us to go on a
holiday in a world that offers an environment very different from
anything we could have anticipated prior to our arrival.
Spirit-beings are as
uncertain about coming here as we are anxious and concerned about
returning to the world of our
origin when our bodies can no longer sustain our energy.
We willingly surrendered who we
were when we left the realm of
spirit-beings, just as Jesus did, when he came here. (Philippians
2:6) Jesus experienced a
break-through in the wilderness following his baptism.
What Jesus envisioned for
humanity had nothing to do with religion.
It had to do with a
process of spiritually awakening, an event that can happen to anyone
regardless of their beliefs.
One of the values of the material world is that it presents us
with many teachable moments. (Matthew 16:26) What is a father to
do?
An understanding father is one
who has faith in the process that struggling eventually gives
a butterfly strong wings so
that it can fly. Also, that
the pressures from living can create
a diamond from a lump of coal.
The model for this
process comes from having faith in God's loving and thoughtful nature.
All of us can reflect God's
nature as loving parents who allow our children to experience and cope
with life as various events come up for them. Happy Father's Day! CONGREGATIONAL PRAYER Loving God, in spite of our stage presence, our attitudes and
activities reveal more about the depth of our spirits than the sum of
our spoken beliefs.
We
desire peace even though we are easily bothered when inconvenienced. We
desire strong faith even though our fears invite worry into our minds.
We desire to be loved, even though our moods can easily make that
difficult for others to express. Our world hungers for guidance, for
community, and for inspired confidence that your will is unfolding as
you had planned.
Help us to
remain sensitive to your abundant creativity that surrounds us.
Amen.
PASTORAL PRAYER
Eternal God, we enter our sanctuary this morning realizing that worship
is one of the most refreshing and nourishing ways to begin our week.
Until we arrive here, we are seldom aware of the accumulation of
distractions that have blocked our awareness of your presence.
Thank you for loving us even when we do not respond, when our vision is
fixed on issues of self-interest, or when we slip into pleasures that we
hope will neutralize the tensions and stress that are part of each week.
This morning, we celebrate the presence
in our lives of our fathers.
Often our dad’s words stood between us and a mistake we were
about to make.
We accused
him of not understanding us, while he was protecting us from dangers we
could not see.
Thank you
for all our dads who took their responsibilities very seriously even
though he often felt he was never quite good enough to take even partial
credit for what we have become. There were times when he fixed our broken toys, knowing he could not
mend our broken hearts. He modeled confidence for confronting our inner
fears and insecurities by being confident himself.
As the years passed and our understanding grew, he softened from
being an authority figure to becoming an advisor who often sought our
opinion. We now know that many of the values we see in ourselves
sprouted from seeds our fathers sowed in our inner garden when we were
not looking. Thank you for this marvelous source from which we have
learned a number of values upon which we have built our character and
integrity. We pray these
thoughts through the spirit of Jesus, the Christ, who taught us to say
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